When the Right is Always Wrong and the Left is Always Right

I hear this attitude a lot in my left-of-center circles. And even worse than the old “I’m right and you’re wrong” kind of comments, these days in our angry, polarized society, I’m hearing way too much “I’m right and you’re stupid” disdain meted out by liberal (so-called “open minded”) people.

This is what I call our liberal arrogance. (Stay with me here; this is for us progressives. I’ll spend another future blog talking about conservative self-righteousness. But right now, I need to say this to my friends on the left.)

It is absolutely normal for us humans to believe we are right. We couldn’t bear the moral tension if we knew we were investing ourselves in something clearly false. So of course, when any of us thinks through our positions, we come up with a stance that seems most reasonable and true based on our personality and experience. Of course we think we are right.

The problem comes when some of us also believe that ONLY we can be right on a particular issue. That ONLY our way of making sense makes sense in the world.

The problem comes when we look at others who disagree – people who see the issue differently, people who see the world differently – and attribute insincere or immoral motives to them and their beliefs.

“I’m right and you’re stupid” is a supreme arrogance.

Jonathan Haidt is a social psychologist who has been talking about the morality of politics for years. His research led him to lay out five core foundations upon which humans build our societies: Care. Fairness. Authority. Loyalty. Sanctity.

In his 2008 TED Talk, Haidt describes these moral foundations and explains how liberals and conservatives relate to them in their various ways.

Two of the foundations, Care and Fairness, are generally valued by people across the spectrum. Humans (as well as many animals) seem to be hard-wired to care for their young and to protect those who are vulnerable in their group. And we all generally agree that things should be fair; we have different ideas about exactly what is “fair,” but liberals and conservatives alike value fairness.

However, three other moral foundations seem to carry much less value for liberals than for conservatives: Loyalty. Authority. Sanctity. As Haidt says in his 2012 essay, “America’s Painful Divide,” in general, liberals question authority, criticize group loyalty and distrust faith and/or religion.

“Loyalty to a group is the basis of racism and exclusion, [liberals] say. Authority is oppression. Religion is used to suppress female sexuality and justify homophobia…”

Of course there are exceptions. There are many of us progressives who do respect authority, value faith and are absolutely loyal to family and country. (Please note and forgive my broad use of the pronouns “us” and “we” in the context of this blog.)

So we should not dismiss Jonathan Haidt’s theories by taking his descriptions personally. This social psychologist is not criticizing “us;” rather he is seeking to understand and name reality. When you look at the big picture of liberalism in America in 2018, can you see some truth in his description of “us” ?

I certainly can.

I can see plenty of ways progressives inaccurately assign blame for racism, exclusion, oppression, misogyny and homophobia. We blame religion for the ills of society without acknowledging its power for good. We rail against institutions and the status quo without recognizing how they provide stability and structure. We criticize group loyalty without admitting all us humans seek the comfort of homogeneous groups.

Blaming others without acknowledging our own failures is a supreme arrogance.

Have you read or seen Margaret Atwood’s brilliant story The Handmaid’s Tale? Ms. Atwood wrote this novel in 1985, years before our current “populist” takeover. Long ago, she recognized the danger that was brewing in America. Yes, the danger of the perversely pious Gilead, but also the danger of the arrogant left that helped launch that tragic pendulum swing.

One scene takes place in flashback as Mrs. Waterford (Serena Joy) is invited to speak at a university about her passion for family values and the sanctity of life. The liberal students rise up in riotous protest and refuse even to listen. They sacrifice an opportunity for intellectual engagement for their arrogant “we’re right and you’re evil” caricature. Consequently the architects of Gilead were even more convinced of the righteousness of their ultra-conservative cause.

The similarities to some of the attitudes and actions in our current public conversations are chilling. Our liberal arrogance may not produce an actual Gilead but we on the left did – and do – contribute to America’s painful divide.

The left is NOT always right.

The right is NOT always wrong.

No one is ALWAYS anything.

We ALL are Both/And, mixed, complex. And we all are often blind to our own shortcomings.

So my plea to my progressive partners: let’s practice some humility as we engage our conservative neighbors. We don’t have to give up confidence; we can still engage conversations with our beliefs in tact. But we are much more likely to be heard when we engage others with curiosity and civility.

“Help me understand why you think that way.”

“So you and I agree on this part, but here’s where I see we disagree.”

“May I explain where I’m coming from? I, too, have thought about this quite a bit.”

“Tell me about the kind of America you want our grandchildren to inherit.”

This kind of engagement makes it much more likely that we will hear and understand a perspective that is different from our own. After all, if we are going to call ourselves “liberal” or “progressive,” we ought to live up to the classic definitions of those terms: open, broad minded, generous, growing and developing new ideas and approaches.

If we on the left truly believe we have good and generous ideas for our society, then it’s high time we step up with confident humility. As a progressive, I absolutely believe liberal approaches are good and healthy so I want these ideas to be taken seriously by conservatives and this will only happen if the left and the right can find ways to talk and listen to each other; to collaborate and cooperate and one another.

But since this blog is for us progressives, I have to repeat this wisdom for us:

WE must be the change we want to see in the world.

We can’t change anyone else. We can only change ourselves: our attitudes, our actions, our words, our minds, our hearts.

As Jonathan Haidt suggests:

If you really want to open your mind, open your heart first. If you can have at least one friendly interaction with a member of the “other” group, you’ll find it far easier to listen to what they’re saying, and maybe even see a controversial issue in a new light.

We’re all stuck here for a while, so let’s try to work it out.

 

“America’s Painful Divide,” Saturday Evening Post article (Fall 2012).

https://www.saturdayeveningpost.com/2012/08/americas-painful-divide/

See here an important book review published by the New York Times that explores something about the current state of our American universities and this generation of students (not exactly a pre-Giliead academic environment, but still, liberal education in flux.) One of the books is “The Coddling of the American Mind,” by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff.  Pay special attention to this quote from the article by Thomas Chatterton Williams:

What both of these books make clear from a variety of angles is that if we are going to beat back the regressive populism, mendacity and hyperpolarization in which we are currently mired, we are going to need an educated citizenry fluent in a wise and universal liberalism. This liberalism will neither play down nor fetishize identity grievances, but look instead for a common and generous language to build on who we are more broadly, and to conceive more boldly what we might be able to accomplish in concert.

Yet as the tenuousness of even our most noble and seemingly durable civil rights gains grows more apparent by the news cycle, we must also reckon with the possibility that a full healing may forever lie on the horizon. And so we will need citizens who are able to find ways to move on despite this, without letting their discomfort traumatize or consume them. If the American university is not the space to cultivate this strong and supple liberalism, then we are in deep and lasting trouble.

Does Our Cultural Obsession With Safety Spell the Downfall of Democracy?” by Thomas Chatterton Williams (

See also Charlotte’s companion blog: If the Right Must be Right then the Left Must be Heresy.

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Charlotte Vaughan Coyle

Charlotte Vaughan Coyle

Charlotte Vaughan Coyle lives in Paris TX and blogs about intersections of faith, culture and politics on her website and her Intersections Facebook page. She is a retired minister for the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ) and serves as national president for Coffee Party USA. Charlotte also blogs about Scripture from a progressive Christian approach at her Living in The Story website.

8 thoughts on “When the Right is Always Wrong and the Left is Always Right”

  1. There are so many fallacies in this article I don’t know where to begin. First, you equate Democrats and liberals as if they are one and the same. They are not the same. The modern Democratic party is neoliberal, which is left of center, and has been since the Clinton administration. The Democratic party has consistently turned it’s back on liberal policies and candidates for the last 20 years. The only time Democrats propose truly liberal policies is when Republicans can block or defeat these policies. When Democrats hold the power to actually pass these policies, they never get it done. And your “both sides” argument, that liberals and conservatives are both right and wrong on various issues is not historically accurate. Liberalism has given us the American Revolution, the abolishment of slavery, Social Security, Medicare, Medicaid, the Voting rights act, and the (failed) Equal rights amendment. Conservatism has given us the Civil War, prohibition, the Great Depression, Jim Crow laws, and the Great Recession of 2008. Although your assumption that neither side is always right or wrong may be true in theory, you would be hard pressed to name liberal policies that have been detrimental to our country or conservative policies that have been good for our country. In my opinion, our country would be a much better place if a truly progressive agenda was passed into law.

    1. Hmmm … I can’t even tell that you and I read the same article. I say nothing here about Democrats and Republicans and governmental policies. I’m talking about us progressives doing a better job of communicating with our conservative neighbors. But thanks for reading Michael.

  2. This is our nation’s Achilles Heel. Both sides do it. Both sides paint the other as the “anti-Christ” or Evil Incarnate. Fact is both sides love this nation, they just have different approaches as to what is best for our nation. I’m an Independent, because I don’t agree with either party 100% of the time. Sadly, both partys see a person, like me, as the enemy, because they both want 100% agreement with their view. Both sides get snarky with anyone who doesn’t march in lock step with their view of the world. This needs to change. Both partys have allowed the extremists, in their respective party to control what their party does. Folks with a moderate point of view are not welcomed. Frankly, I’d like to see a “Middle of the Road” Party formed. We’ve had enough of extremists on both sides of the isle.

  3. I am familiar with Haidt’s work. I believe his own preferences colored his results: in particular I reject his naming loyalty (effectively nationalism) and sanctity (effectively western religion) as foundational. I also suggest the blog only skims the surface of liberal reaction to conservatism. I have tried all the suggestions offered for engaging conservatives. All are rejected. What the author sees as arrogance is actually the frustration of people who have tried to engage a conservative movement that abandoned rationality as an operating principle.

  4. If I were to run across a thoughtful well intentioned conservative I would be happy to have a deep discourse on our different ideas. I haven’t to date and don’t believe I ever will. In non academic life, there really aren’t a lot of folks willing to listen to the diatribes of the right. Here in Oklahoma, that is mostly what you get. Self important aggrandizing and retreaded misconceptions and outright lies about leftists and our policies and beliefs. Show me just one conservative idea that doesn’t end up hurting someone or something unnecessarily and we can talk. We are all suffering here from votes being cast against our own interests. We just elected a new governor who will continue the policies of the right and not expand Medicaid here. We already have a problem with rural healthcare as hospitals close across the state. This will just finish the job. The new normal city’s vote blue rural votes red was entirely responsible for the governor’s election. Please explain how we can reach an understanding with people who don’t even seem to care about themselves.

    1. There are many “well intentioned conservatives” around; you probably know several (even in Oklahoma!) But yes, it is frustrating when people have such an allegiance to a party that they end up voting against their own interests. This is a question lots of social scientists study (Jonathan Haidt for example) and one that I keep exploring. I have several conservative conversation partners who stimulate me and help me sharpen my own ideas. When we don’t agree, we can at least understand something about why we believe the way we do and what values motivate us; that’s important. I will not engage conversation partners who disrespect me and refuse to even consider other perspectives; that is a waste of my time and energy. But I do want to keep the door open for conservatives who are recognizing their Republican party has been hijacked. If I dismiss these seekers as lost causes, I will miss some great opportunities to demonstrate progressive values.

      May I recommend Living Room Conversations? You can join a cyberspace dialogue and experience intelligent discussion across differences. Then maybe you could host something like this in your neighborhood; I bet you would be surprised that there are quite a few people who are also hungry for “deep discourse on different ideas.” Check them out here: https://www.livingroomconversations.org/

      Thanks for reading and thanks for the conversation. Peace, Jon.

  5. I agree with you in principle, and 40 years ago, I lived comfortably under this maxim. But we are in a different time, a critical time. And I look at the fruits of liberal and conservative philosophies, and I lose patience. The worst conservatives can say about the fruits of liberal philosophy is that they pursue policies that are inefficient and ineffective, and a drain on the economy. Liberals, on the other hand, can point out the the fruits of conservative philosophy are literally threatening the sustainability of civilization by subordinating environmental concerns to profit-making. There is no moral equivalence between the two sides, and we don’t have any time left to make conservatives feel loved and appreciated. We have to change this now, or our kids and grandkids are going to die.

    1. Hi Jeff. I agree that our society is way out of balance right now. But I don’t blame Classic Conservatism any more than I blame classic Liberalism. Across the board, we have forsaken some of our core principles and set ourselves up for the current mess we’re in. I blame extremist thinking on both ends of the spectrum.

      Have you read Jonathan Haidt? He’s an important voice in this important discussion. I recommend his classic book ‘The Righteous Mind’ I’m rereading it right now and seeing new insights. Or goggle some of his articles where he talks about differences between the right and the left and how crucial it is that we hear each other. Thoughtful well intentioned people on all sides working together is where we will find our true balance. Thanks for the conversation! Peace!

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